I Know Your Schedule. I Don't Know Your Dreams.

You already know their coffee order, their work schedule, their bedtime habits, and the face they make when they are pretending everything is fine. You know the rhythms of their life with a familiarity that has become almost automatic. And yet - when did you last ask about a dream they have been too afraid to name? When did you last sit across from this person and discover something about them you had never known before?

This guide is built on a simple but radical belief: that the people we love most are still, in the most important ways, full of mystery. That beneath the schedules and the routines and the comfortable shorthand of a shared life, there are depths that have not been plumbed, stories that have not been told, dreams that have not been spoken, and fears that have not been named. The 52 questions in this guide are invitations to that depth. They are not designed to be therapeutic, or confrontational, or even particularly serious. They are designed to be genuine - to create the conditions in which two people who love each other can remember, again and again, that the person they are with is still one of the most interesting people they have ever met.